I am having problems with correcting my son about his usage of "want" vs. "need." He believes everything is "I need..." so I correct him and say, "You don't NEED, you WANT."
Personally, I'm having the opposite problem. I WANT everything.
I want a new/better job.
I want to buy/live in a house.
I want a new car.
I want my house to be clean.
I want a boyfriend I can touch.
I want to lose weight.
I want more money.
"I want a new/better job." I love my job. I really, truly do. I hate driving to my job. I get frustrated with people at my job constantly. I don't make enough money at my job. I know the bullshit politics that my job makes you go through and they almost NEVER live up to promises. I'm not allowed to have a set schedule even though I'm a single mom. I want a job that is closer to home, has better hours, pays more, and will actually let you move up in the company.
"I want to buy/live in a house." I am sick of my townhome. It's too small for us. I'm tired of living in the complex I do as well. I want to live in a house that is big enough for us. I don't want to have people up against my walls anymore. I want to have a yard for my son to play in. I want a fenced backyard so I can have dogs again. I want a place of my own that I can decorate and call home.
"I want a new car." I love my car. It's new and beautiful and runs great. I miss my old car that was very rudely taken away from me by nature and a concrete wall. It was a hybrid and I can really tell the difference between my last car and my new car at the gas pump. It's killing me. I'm looking for another hybrid, but they're so fucking expensive. Why is healthy/good for you things so damn expensive? The world wonders why it's so hard for people to make healthy choices. *rolls eyes*
"I want my house to be clean." I cannot make it happen. I've tried. I feel like everytime I make a dent in this mess, something comes along and makes an even BIGGER mess than was there before. I just don't know how to get a handle on it. Everytime I get this place half way decent, I promise myself that this is it. No more getting buried in mess. In no time at all, I feel like I can't breath in this place because it's back to how it was.
"I want a boyfriend I can touch." This one is a hard one. I am in love and I've never been in the same room with him. We click so well. I jokingly say he's the male me. :) I'm a very touchy/demanding person when it comes to relationships. To be with someone that I can't use my 5 senses on is VERY hard for me. Not being involved in his day to day life is even worse. I have really bad trust issues and I try to surpress them, but it's not easy for me. I think if I had some kind of a more...solid? relationship with him, it'd be so much easier.
"I want to lose weight." I am having so much trouble with this one. I was looking at pictures of myself from just ONE year ago and I can tell I have gained weight. I will NOT go back up to where I was before. I refuse. I have to find a way to get a handle on this. I tried going back to my old weight loss method, but it won't stick this time for some reason. I get distracted or start making excuses and then it just fades away. I think I am going to start by not eating out. I seriously eat out at least once a day...sometimes twice. Fortunately, I am not the one paying, but unfortunately, I seem to think leftovers are a bad thing. I always clean my plate even when halfway through, I announce I'm full.
"I want more money." I am able to provide for my family but it's not easy. I am on assistance programs, but just barely. If ANYthing tips me out of these programs, I'm screwed. I would NOT be able to support my family. I want more money so that I CAN get off these programs but still be okay with our finances. I don't want to go out shopping every weekend or go out to clubs every Friday night. I just want to be able to buy my son a happy meal or take him to a movie once and a while.
All of these things are things that I WANT. Do I NEED them? No. But it sure would be fucking nice to have.
